If forgetting is protection, and if the body remembers what the mind cannot, then where does that leave us today?

It leaves us with the most important doorway of all: the present moment.

Because healing doesn’t happen by forcing ourselves to re-live the past. Healing happens when we learn to mother ourselves through the experiences we are having right now.

The Power of Presence

In considering my own patterns - the chronic people pleaser, the spirals of overdoing, the worries of everyone else’s needs over my own, the rebel against authority, the inner critic that never rested - I thought, “Where do these patterns come from and is there something I can do about it.”

But what I discovered is that the remembering isn’t the medicine. The mothering is.

Each time I caught myself collapsing into shame, I practiced offering compassion instead. Each time I pushed myself past exhaustion, I tried - slowly, gently - to give myself permission to rest. Each time I wanted to abandon myself to please others, I asked, “What would it look like to choose me this time?”

This is what re-mothering is: small, daily choices to hold ourselves with the love we once longed for.

Meeting the Archetypes in Real Time

Our inner child doesn’t just live in the past - she shows up in the everyday moments of our adult lives.

When the Rebel inside us wants to speak truth but we silence her to stay “safe.”
When the Invisible Child still shrinks away from being seen.
When the Caretaker pushes her own needs aside for the comfort of others.

By naming these Inner Child Archetypes, I began to see the patterns not as flaws, but as signals. Each one showing me exactly where I could mother myself more deeply.

Practicing Re-Mothering

In Mothering the Wound, this is where so much of the work lives:

Noticing when you abandon yourself in the present.
Choosing to pause instead of react.
Offering yourself compassion, softness, and care… even when your old beliefs scream that you don’t deserve it.

This is not about being perfect. It’s about being present. And presence creates safety. And safety creates healing.

Healing Without the Whole Story

The truth is: you don’t need all the intricate details of your life and childhood to begin. What matters is how you show up for yourself now.

Because each time you choose compassion over criticism, empathy over shame, presence over panic -you are mothering the wound. You are becoming the mother your inner child always needed.

And this - this moment, right here - is where healing begins.