How the Body Remembers
If memory can go missing, if childhood feels like a blur, how do we make sense of the patterns that still shape our lives?
Because while the mind may forget, the body does not.
Our bodies carry the story of what we’ve lived through. Sometimes in whispers, sometimes in shouts. A racing heartbeat when someone raises their voice. The way we shrink in a room full of people, even though we’re adults now. The relentless push to overachieve, even when exhaustion is breaking us down.
These are not random. They are echoes.
The Language of the Body
The body remembers through sensation, through reaction, through patterns we can’t always explain. This is why triggers can feel so powerful: they’re not just about the present, they’re old imprints waking up inside us.
A partner’s silence may trigger the fear of abandonment from long ago.
A boss’s criticism may feel like proof we’re “not enough,” echoing the Performer archetype.
The exhaustion from carrying everyone else’s needs may reveal the quiet sacrifice of the Caretaker.
These patterns are not about weakness. They are survival strategies that once kept us safe.
Meeting the Inner Child in the Present
In my work with Inner Child Archetypes, I see how the body’s memory often speaks louder than the mind’s. We may not consciously recall being the Invisible Child, but our present-day habit of staying quiet in conflict tells her story. We may not remember every moment of striving, but the Performer lives in our shoulders that never unclench.
This is where healing begins: not by forcing ourselves to remember the past, but by listening to what the body is telling us now.
Mothering the Wound in Real Time
When I created Mothering the Wound, it wasn’t about uncovering every buried memory. It was about teaching women how to mother themselves through their present experiences. To pause when the body speaks. To soften instead of shame. To listen with curiosity instead of judgment.
This shift is powerful:
Instead of fighting our triggers, we begin to honor them as guides.
Instead of seeing our reactions as flaws, we see them as the body’s wisdom.
Instead of searching for missing pieces, we find healing in the here and now.
The Truth the Body Holds
The body never lies. It remembers what the mind cannot. And when we begin to meet those memories - not as problems, but as messages - we move closer to the wholeness we’ve been seeking.
You don’t need to remember it all to heal. You only need to begin noticing what your body is telling you now.
Because our reactions, aches, and overreactions are not enemies - they can be your inner child, asking for you to come closer - to be heard, understood and validated.
